Frequency is built so you meet people the natural way: at a Circle or a public event, around something you both care about. That's not just how it's meant to feel, it's the safest way to meet someone new. You're never on your own, there are other people there, and you get to know someone over a few gatherings instead of a single cold meetup.
The easiest, safest first meeting
- Meet at a Circle or a public event first. When someone catches your interest, look for a gathering you can both show up to. A room full of people is the safest possible introduction.
- Keep early meetings public. A cafe, a park, a class. Somewhere with other people around. There's no rush to make it private.
- Tell someone where you're going. A friend, a housemate, anyone. Share the plan and when you expect to be back.
- Trust your gut. If something feels off, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Leave.
What we do, and don't, share
- We never share your exact location. Others only ever see your approximate neighborhood or your city, never your address. You control all of this in Settings, Connections & Location.
- Hosts can protect their address too. Some events show only the city until you RSVP or get a ticket; the exact address appears once you register. Hosts running gatherings at a home or studio can turn this on in the event's settings.
- You decide who can find you. Ghost mode hides you entirely; you can limit who discovers you to your connections, or no one.
Looking at housing or meeting a roommate
- See the place before any money moves. No landlord or roommate on Frequency should ask
for a deposit, a fee, or an app payment before you have seen the home and met in person.
Someone pushing you to pay first is the oldest housing scam there is; report the listing
and walk away.
- Roommate matches show a match and a few reasons, never your budget or your answers. Treat
a first roommate meeting like any first meeting: somewhere public, on your own schedule.
Invites and saved contacts
- An invite link points at a real gathering, not a private meetup. When someone shares their personal invite and you RSVP, you're going to an event with other people there. That is the public-first rule working for you: meet in the open, around something real, not one-on-one first.
- Saved contacts stay private. When you invite people and they RSVP, or when you scan someone's code to save them, that contact is private to you. It is never broadcast, and nobody is added to a mailing list. The same is true in reverse: RSVPing to a friend's invite shares your details with that one person, not a list.
If someone makes you uncomfortable
- Remove them from your suggestions. The X on a suggested person takes them out, and we won't surface them again.
- Block and report. Blocking cuts all contact; reporting sends it to real people who follow up. See Reporting and moderation.
Verification
You verify yourself the most Frequency way there is: show up to an event and check in at the door. Actually turning up in the real world is the truest sign you're a real person, so checking in earns you a small verified check by your name, automatically. There's nothing to upload and no form to fill in. Until you've been to one, the rules above are what keep meetings safe: meet in the open, around something real, and take your time.
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