Frequency is built so you meet people the natural way: at a circle or a public event, around something you both care about. That's not just how it's meant to feel, it's the safest way to meet someone new. You're never on your own, there are other people there, and you get to know someone over a few gatherings instead of a single cold meetup.
The easiest, safest first meeting
- Meet at a circle or a public event first. When someone catches your interest, look for a gathering you can both show up to. A room full of people is the safest possible introduction.
- Keep early meetings public. A cafe, a park, a class. Somewhere with other people around. There's no rush to make it private.
- Tell someone where you're going. A friend, a housemate, anyone. Share the plan and when you expect to be back.
- Trust your gut. If something feels off, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Leave.
What we do, and don't, share
- We never share your exact location. Others only ever see your approximate neighborhood or your city, never your address. You control all of this in Settings, Connections & Location.
- You decide who can find you. Ghost mode hides you entirely; you can limit who discovers you to your connections, or no one.
If someone makes you uncomfortable
- Remove them from your suggestions. The X on a suggested person takes them out, and we won't surface them again.
- Block and report. Blocking cuts all contact; reporting sends it to real people who follow up. See Reporting and moderation.
Verification
You verify yourself the most Frequency way there is: show up to an event and check in at the door. Actually turning up in the real world is the truest sign you're a real person, so checking in earns you a small verified check by your name, automatically. There's nothing to upload and no form to fill in. Until you've been to one, the rules above are what keep meetings safe: meet in the open, around something real, and take your time.