Friends
Send and accept friend requests, invite new people, and why they matter for messaging.
Friends are your direct connections on Frequency. Adding someone also opens private messaging with them.
How it works
- Send a request from someone's profile. They'll see it as an incoming request.
- Accept or decline requests sent to you. Your Friends page shows incoming, outgoing, and accepted connections, with a People · Contacts switch (People is your friends; Contacts is your personal rolodex of people you've met).
- Once you're friends, you can start a direct message or group thread together.
Your orbit
Frequency keeps your relationships alive instead of letting them pile up as a dead list. Your friends are grouped by how close you are right now (your Inner, Middle, and Outer orbit) based on the real things you share, like Circles you're both in and events you've both shown up to. When a friendship has drifted to your Outer orbit, you'll see a gentle "say hi" nudge. None of this is a score anyone else can see. It's just your own private way of remembering who to reconnect with.
You may also see "People you keep crossing paths with": folks who share your Circles or events but you haven't connected with yet. One tap sends them a request. (Your steward can turn these features on or off for the community.)
Introduce two friends
Know two people who should meet? On your Friends page, introduce them: pick two of your friends and add a line about why they'd click. They'll each see that you thought of them, and when they connect, you earn Gems for bringing two people together. Your Friends page also keeps a little inbox of the introductions you've made and the ones made for you. It's the most valuable thing you can do here: knitting the community together, one introduction at a time.
A shared history, remembered for you
When you open a friend's profile, Frequency shows how you're connected (when you met, when you became friends, and the events you've both shown up to) built automatically from what you actually do together, so you never have to write any of it down. It's your own private memory of the relationship.
Invite people in
Use Invite friends (from your account menu or the top of your Friends page) to bring new people to Frequency. You'll get a personal invite link and a QR code you can copy, share, or show in person. When someone joins through your link, you're connected automatically and you earn Zaps for the introduction.
Good to know
- You need to be friends before you can DM someone: this keeps private messages consensual, not a free-for-all.
- Pending requests sit quietly until they're accepted; there's no pressure either way.
- Removing a friend is always your call.
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